Trailercast Episode 082: What’'s the point of therapy?
Why do we go to therapy? What even is the point? How do you find a good therapist? How often should you go and who gets to decide that? When do you know that you’re done?
Yes. Ask these questions. Examine why we do things.
I think the point of therapy is total restoration. I am not looking for partial healing. I expect things to get all the way better. Often times we bail out before we get all the way there, but listen: we want to get past baseline! Sometimes I start to feel better sooner than my healing is fully over with. Keep doing the work until you are confident restoration has happened.
How do I find a therapist that is right for me? There are endless ways of coming across this type of relationship: word of mouth, looking at the therapist’s website, understanding the different modalities of therapy and thinking about what you might need from your therapist in order to fully heal. The list goes on.
Also, consider what it is that you are going for this specific time. Sometimes I go to therapy to talk about parenting, to do inner child work, or to work through trauma. What type of therapy would be helpful for the specific type of work you are wanting to do?
Let’s talk about trauma for a bit. Much of the time, our trauma manifests itself in the form of physical response. When a topic that we associate with trauma comes up, we may feel a tightening, shortness of breath, nausea, headaches, and other physical symptoms that are related to our mental health. Sometimes parts of our story bring up these responses and this is how we know we have been invited back into the work that we are doing.
With that being said, sometimes when things have been healed, it is not necessary to bring them back up again. I am a big believer in letting what is done stay done. Even if a therapist you have been seeing is not offering what it is you need or want to work on, tell them! Ask for a recommendation for someone who is. Therapy is about you getting what you need to come to a place of total restoration. Your therapist will understand that.
Beside all that mumbo jumbo of modalities of therapy and all these questions is the real necessity to connect with a human being who gives a damn about you. This is the point.
I don’t want you to just listen anymore. I want to Invite you into some change, some action. What do you need? And what can we do about that?
Take a look at my team of therapists, self care advocates, our spiritual director, health coach, enneagram coach and see if this space is the right space for you. We are here to guide you to the changes that will bring restoration in your life.